Showing posts with label my son. Show all posts
Showing posts with label my son. Show all posts

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Asking Questions with 5 W's and 1 H.

Hi everyone…       
Another week has passed and yet I still feel at a loss for words to write on my blog page. I suppose I need to just let my thoughts and feelings flow and share the deeper pulse of my heart. Yet, even that seems so difficult for me to do.
I’m reminded of the writings and the devotions that Ann Voskamp has shared (some her own, some are guest writers) on her blog, “A Holy Experience”. God had shown me so much whenever I read her daily posts. I’ve noticed over the years that she often poses questions (using the 5W’s and 1H) in the titles of each post. Those questions form a theme for the meat of the writing. 

As summer quickly fades out and the fall season begins, I have been reflecting on not only what I have learned, but also what God is teaching me through some very difficult circumstances. Most of these lessons have been nothing short of excruciatingly difficult. Yet, as I have pulled through each of them, I come out renewed and so much wiser and stronger.


I noticed in Ann's blog, that the same has often taken place. I decided to share some lessons from some of her recent posts that I have also learned. 

Here are the questions posed:
When…without explanation, I was accused and rejected, I felt helpless and had no strength to defend myself. I had not been anchored in Christ's Word.
My spirit was crumbling, but deep down there was a vapor of strength. I cried to God, “Rescue me, I cannot rescue myself.”




What…do I do when I feel lost, alone, and am hurting?
There were times in my life when I was desperate for God’s presence. When I decided to spend more time in God’s presence He spoke to me.
  • ·       God yearns to spend quiet moments with us and help us grow more and more aware of His presence as we seek Him. He says, “When no one else seems to understand you, simply draw closer to Me.” He has made Himself completely accessible to you and is waiting for you to come to Him. So accept His invitation, enter in, allow yourself to be overwhelmed by God — and then declare His glorious being to the world (http://www.aholyexperience.com/2015/08/your-invitation-to-exhale-all-the-stress/ )



Where…do I go when I have to make a decision? Where do I turn when the seasons of change in my life start taking place?
There were some days I needed wise words from an older, more experienced mentor. And some days I needed crazy laughter and long sunlight and to really just get outside and feel life and breathe… And there were days when change was painfully hard.
  • ·       I thank God that as I lift up my foot to step into the next season, He is graciously placing it down exactly where it should fall, knowing I can only experience the true goodness of one season — because of the others I have gone through.


Who… is my hope, my anchor, my strength?  Who do I give thanks to when I am tearing through what He has so graciously given me in this season of my life?
I’m very guilty of rushing about – from my house to work to my mom’s house, and back to my house again – and, all the while, my mind is racing, my blood pressure is rising and all I can think about is what’s next…And I forget that these days are gifts - Gifts given by a most gracious Father.
  • ·       We need to stop racing – and start resting, to take a break  – and just start listening, to stop worrying about what’s next and to be amazed by what’s right in front of us. Because His goodness, His grace and His glory – they’re all around. We just need to keep our eyes open and listen to a gentle beckoning : “Show me, Lord, my life’s end and the number of my days;  let me know how fleeting my life is.  You have made my days a mere handbreadth; the span of my years is as nothing before you. Everyone is but a breath, even those who seem secure. Surely everyone goes around like a mere phantom; in vain they rush about, heaping up wealth without knowing whose it will finally be. But now, Lord, what do I look for?  My hope is in you.” (Ps. 39:4-7)




Why… now, this moment in history, is the world  facing the worst crisis in decades?
I’ve heard and seen the heart-stopping stories. And I know that the Love of God, for such a time as now, will not be stopped.



How…should I feel about the people who strike a difficult cord in my life? How do I respond to those who broke my heart and those who have been my rock?
I obsessed over pushy demands, angry words, and hurtful threats. From our summer vacation to moving my son up north, I learned that summer’s gifts are not always what I expect – but it’s everything I need.




Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Ten Ways to Love: #9 & 10: Forgive and Promise

This is the fifth post in a series I'm writing, called Ten Ways to Love. To read the other parts of the series go HERE.

 Here we are, on the last two ways to love others.
 I haven't posted in several days because, as it has been much of the time, it is quite busy around here. (So forgive me, as this will be a bit of  a longer post.)
We had been preparing for several weeks to help our 20 year-old son move out on his own to a town 4 hours away from ours. It's not been easy. This isn't only because of the long drive down or the process of house and job hunting. There's much more at stake here. 
Our son is a decent and caring young man. That is how we raised him. But, as all of us have in our lives, he's made many unwise choices already. Some are due to inexperience in life, while others are because of selfishness and the many temptations of this life that we are all bombarded with. It truly is a big, mean world out there! Some of his choices have cut us deeply, as parents.

For most parents who have teen or young adult children, you know what I'm talking about.
I was having coffee with a friend the other day whose children are now in their 30s and 40s. I asked her if the worry and hurt we feel when our children make bad choices in their lives ever goes away or changes. Her answer was, "It doesn't go away, but it does change. When you aren't right there to see every choice they make or every action in their lives, it isn't as difficult."  
In one sense, I look forward to that change. 
In another sense, I am sad, as a phase of my life as a parent is soon to be over.

I look back over the list of "Ten Ways to Love" and realize that, as a parent, I am already struggling with many of them.  When your child has lied to you, how do you learn to trust again? When they try to convince you of something by arguing, how do you answer without arguing back? When you've given everything you have to make their life better, how do you keep giving, in hopes that they will make good choices with what they've been given? Then there is praying, without ceasing! Oh, my! That is one area that has been an ongoing battle for me. I've prayed so much! And yet, much of the time I've felt alone in my prayers for my son. 
 Now, as I read the verses listed by the last two "Ways to Love", my heart shrivels with guilt. 

 #9 - Forgive without punishing
 "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."  Colossians 3:13

We probably all have heard the saying, "I can forgive, but I'll never forget." I've said that many times before, myself. But what does that really mean? When I think of forgiveness in the Bible, I think that forgiveness not only involves a choice of the mind, but also a choice of the heart.
Psalm 103:12 says,
" as far as the east is from the west, so far does He remove our transgressions from us."
Isaiah 43:25 says,
 "I--yes, I alone--will blot out your sins for my own sake and will never think of them again.

If we say we forgive, but still keep in the back of our minds how that person hurt us, how can either one be healed? We need to do as Christ did, forgive, remove the transgression, and NEVER think of it again! Wow, this isn't easy!

Wilmington Divider Clip Art

#10- Promise without forgetting
  "Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life."
Proverbs 13:12 (New Internation Version)
or
"The delay of what is anxiously hoped for, is very painful to the mind; obtaining it is very pleasant. But spiritual blessings are chiefly intended." 
  Proverbs 13:12 (Common English Bible)

We've all made promises before, promises to our spouses and promises to the Lord. We've made promises about raising our children in a godly home, at baby dedications at church. But, what about when they are grown and on their own? What kind of promises do we make then? And when we do make promises, do we put requirements on those promises. Like, "I promise to be there to support you emotionally and if needed, financially, as long as you make good choices in your life." It's so difficult, as a parent to let our kids mess up, especially if we know it will most likely affect the rest of thier lives (and ours). 
That is when trusting that God has our children's and our best interest in mind is vital, as He allows everything to happen in our lives. We may not be happy with many of the choices our children make, but we can be assured that:
 "in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."
(Romans 8:28)

Continuing to add to my list of  'gifts', as I continue in the Joy Dare.

1,250 - So many reminders that the Lord has shown me that He cares and love me and those I love, too!

1,251 - As I go through different stages of my life I realize that He truly has been there all along.
1,252 - A son, who desires to do good and make wise choices in life.

1,253 - The love of a family.
1,254 - Time together, enjoying each other's company!

1,255 - Knowing in my heart that the Lord loves and continually watches over our children at every stage of life.

1,256 - Anticipating the adventures to come, as God lays out His blessings in our lives.
 The apartment building our son will be staying in.

1,257 -  The many changes in weather.(As I relate it to the many changes life brings.) We are having, yet, another snowstorm this week. 

Monday, May 7, 2012

An Amazing Weeked

Hi, everyone. How are all my bloggy friends doing out in bloggyland? Hope you all enjoyed your weekend. I've been really enjoying this beautiful weather and family activities.

My weekend started out so right. My son and his girlfriend are great musicians and often play at the local coffee houses or for small events. Friday evening, they played at a local event called First Fridays - described on their Facebook page as "a local event that brings a festive atmosphere. Once a month the downtown streets are turned into a huge block party. Downtown merchants host the party." The song they played on the courthouse square was for our local woman's domestic abuse shelter, called "The Beaman Home". The song was called "Open Your Eyes," by Snow Patrol. It was raining pretty hard, but stopped, just in time for them to play.


My hubby and I also got to take the boat our on the lake and go fishing! In two days we caught 56 bluegill, 1 bass, 2 crappies, and 2 dogfish. Needless to say, fishing was very good this weekend!! (Except for the dogfish :/)

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good.
His love endures forever.   

Psalm 136:1

Listing my gifts for this week for the Joy Dare!

3 gifts tasted
671. Fresh pan-fried fish from the catch of the day.
672. A delicious breaded chicken and bacon sandwich from Arby's!(It was yummy!)
673. Grilled pork chops, smothered in bbq sauce!

3 gifts from my garden.
674. Beautiful bouquet from my Snowball bush.
675. My Clematis, with it's many blooms!

676.The amazing color and detail of God's creation.

3 gifts found in difficult people.
677. Learning to love(and pray for) those who use others...a friend of my sons.
678. Extended family members that make staying close to family difficult. - Trusting God to touch their hearts.
679. Unkind words - (Genesis 50:20) "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives."


3 gifts before 9 a.m.
680. The sound of rain, coming down softly on my roof.
681. Time with God, in the Word, and to write in my journal.
682. A text from a friend, putting our time to meet today, back 30 minutes....I needed a little more time.


A gift in a sign, a smile, a snack.
683. A sign - A new sign for my family, sitting on the fireplace mantel.
684. A smile - The smile and hug of an old friend and previous boss.
685. A snack - Trail mix


3 gifts found in the weekend.
686. Watching my son and his girlfriend perform.
687. That we got a break in the rainy weather, so that they could play.
688. Catching lots of fish 2 days in a row!

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